As a Parent, Ask Yourself this Question…

I was sitting in a restaurant eating lunch when I overheard a conversation that stuck with me. At the table next to me I was admiring a family - Mom and her little kids were meeting Dad for lunch during the workday. It was sweet to see, and I loved watching them be so intentional about family time. And then I heard this: Child (maybe 5 years old): "Mom, can we go to church sometime?"

Mom: "You know what I’ve told you about God and Jesus. If you want to believe, you can, but I won’t teach you anything about them. If you want to learn about God and Jesus, someone else can teach you. You can believe what you want." I want to accurately convey the tone in which mom said this, it was with a tone of pride, thoughtful and intentional. She had clearly decided that the right decision was being “open-minded” and letting her kids choose their own way. It’s the cultural trend, right?

Now, I don’t know where mom is spiritually. I can’t say. But if I could take a stab in the dark, maybe she grew up in a church? She didn’t seem hostile toward the church at all, but wanted to allow her children to find truth by themselves rather than “push” anything on them. It struck me as odd, as a mom being intentional about parenting, wouldn’t you want to find answers for your child? In what other areas do we let our kids figure things out without our direction, prompting, or guidelines? We love our children and care about their well-being; we research top car seats, extracurricular activities, organic, gluten-free foods, and the best schools.


Many of us grew up in Christian homes and understand the basics of Christianity. We might even identify as Christian, or believe in God, in the very least. So why the trend?

IF… the Bible tells us Jesus is the only way… “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me” (